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Because I have a good self image and steadily improving self esteem, it does not diminish me to tell somebody they are doing something or have achieved something that I found impressive.

That is called "a compliment."

Today alone I have had two odd people interpret my compliments as insults. Now having a Master's degree in Communication, I know when I mess up my attempt to convey something and in both cases it was pretty darn evident what I was saying was a compliment.

Let's make things real easy.

When somebody says, "You are a very good artist" or "You have written something that moves me" or "You have done something very impressive" the proper response is simply "Thank you."

That's it. It's a simple "Thank you."

Now if you have a psychological hangup where receiving a compliment is the equivalent of being flayed to death via paper cuts and you would rather be eaten alive by Giant Sumatran Rats than hear "Good job!," at least take personal responsibility for your mental maladjustment and don't insult the person who compliments you.

Even though you may feel it will be the equivalent of having your sinuses irrigated with hydrochloric acid, you might want to grit your teeth anyway and simply say "Thank you."

It's what all the cool, sane people are doing nowadays.

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bighooves
Feb. 16th, 2011 12:42 pm (UTC)
I find it rather sad that some people simply can't say "thank you" to a compliment. Or any other general gesture meant in kindness, for that matter...
lexixanatos487
Feb. 16th, 2011 12:53 pm (UTC)
O.o Now, I'll admit that compliments make me very uncomfortable, but even I can just say "Thanks" (granted, while blushing and looking at the floor lol)
eric_hinkle
Feb. 16th, 2011 05:10 pm (UTC)
Sorry to hear that this happened to you. It's also been going on a LOT on FurAffinity; tell someone that you like their work and/or give a shout on their user page and they go berserk.

I don't know if it's something in the air or what.
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